Selecting poetry for an alternative or non-traditional funeral often means seeking words that are personal, uplifting, unconventional, or even gently humorous. Here are some of the best options, ranging from modern and unusual choices to those that celebrate individuality, comfort, and even a sense of humour.
Amongst my favourite poets is the late, great Benjamin Zephaniah. He did write a wonderful and very moving poem about death called ‘The Death of Joy Gardner’ and, although it is well worth reading and thinking very long and hard about, it’s probably not one for a funeral service however alternative. It’s far too long for one thing.
Benjamin himself loved this classic from the pen of Dylan Thomas…
Another of my favourites is Dr John Cooper Clarke. Whilst he isn’t known for writing exclusively about funerals, many of his poems do touch on themes of mortality, the human condition and loss that can be relevant to a funeral setting. Some of his works might be considered for memorial readings due to their raw emotional intensity and exploration of existential questions.
‘I Wanna Be Yours’ is not explicitly about death but it does explore themes of love, devotion and connection which themselves may well be comforting and meaningful to the loved ones they leave behind.
‘The Day My Pad Went Mad’ with its focus on the absurdity of life, can be interpreted as a reminder to cherish the moments we have. Whoever reads a poem like this out loud will have to be a very accomplished public speaker with as much charisma as Dr John himself, so maybe not for everyone.
Uplifting and humorous poems
Death (If I Should Go) by Joyce Grenfell: This poem by the wonderfully funny comedienne and raconteur, encourages mourners to remember the deceased with joy and to continue living their lives to the full, rather than wallowing in sorrow and struggling with the pain of grief.
Afterglow (Anon): This charming poem focuses on the happy memories we might have of the deceased and celebrating a life well-lived.
Pardon Me for Not Getting Up (Anon): This is a humorous take on funeral readings, perfect for someone remembered for their wit and light-heartedness.
Unusual or modern poems
Dear Lovely Death by Langston Hughes: Offers a comforting, transformative view of death, suggesting it is simply a change rather than an end.
A Clear Midnight by Walt Whitman: Portrays death as a peaceful release, with the soul journeying “into the wordless”.
Farewell, Sweet Dust by Elinor Wylie: A poetic meditation on scattering ashes, blending nature and memory in a non-religious context.
The Dash by Linda Ellis: Reflects on the importance of how we live the “dash” between our birth and death dates, making it a popular choice for alternative ceremonies.
Alternative takes on grief and remembrance
The Life That I Have by Leo Marks: Speaks of eternal love and connection, making it a gentle, heartfelt choice for any alternative or non-religious funeral.
Celebratory and reflective poems
How Did They Live? (Anon): Shifts focus from death to the impact and kindness the person showed in life.
Gone, But Not Forgotten by Ellen Brenneman: Emphasizes that love and memory endure beyond physical absence.
I’m There Inside Your Heart (Anon): Offers comfort by affirming the ongoing presence of the loved one in the hearts of those left behind
